I love it that so many of the great moms I know are home-schooling their children. I think that home-schooled children seem so bright, seem to truly excel when they become adults and the added bonus would be that those parents who home-school get to ACTUALLY raise their children themselves! What a concept!!
I, however, do not believe that this is a gift that the Lord has bestowed upon me. I know that He has given many of his children many talents – I do not think, though, that I am one of those people to whom He has gifted the talent of being able to adequately school their children. Yes, I was in the gifted education class, yes, I love being an attached and involved parent to my littles; however, I don’t know that my mental state of mind would survive ALL DAY, EVERY DAY with them AND stay disciplined enough for them to excel in the way that they have so far. I feel completely blessed and thank-the-Lord-lucky that we have the option of the grade school that my littles currently attend. It is in a very small, very conservative community and is truly a group of people who believe in FAMILY. IF I didn’t have this option, I would have to figure something else out, indeed. I may have to learn a way to acquire the skills to try homeschooling. BUT, since I had the option of this school, I’ve been taking it one year at a time.
Sadly, this summer is going to be one of research and reconsiderations! We were just told at the end of this year that the state of Kansas is getting even more strict in their vaccination rules for public schools. I am SO frustrated and angry over this!! WHY does the state get to tell me that I HAVE to inject dangerous chemicals into my child’s bloodstream??? WHY do they get to tell me that if I don’t make my children guinea pigs for the pharmaceutical companies that my children can not attend the school that MY tax dollars go to help support??? IF I choose to home-school because I don’t agree with the State making decisions for me and my children, do I then get to NOT pay my taxes for the school that I’m not using?? I think not, of course NOT! Isn’t there a bit of a paradox here???
Oh my goodness, can you imagine if parents were actually ALLOWED to determine what was the best thing for their OWN CHILDREN!?!? Peace on Earth would be sure to follow, right???
Friday, May 29, 2009
Judgement
I'm kinda tired of judgement.
The Holy Book says, "Judge not, that ye be not judged." (Matt. 7:1) So why do I feel like I'm under scrutiny every day? Sure, its because we're all human, imperfect, and we fall short every day, but that doesn't make judgements any less hurtful.
My husband and I have always wanted 4 children. Always, always. That was our choice. I have people in my life who think that we shouldn’t have made that choice--hat we should only have had 2 or maybe three. Why would it be anyone’s choice but our own?? We are fairly capable adults, we try our best to be productive members of society, so WHY, I ask you, WHY is it ANYone’s business how many children we have? I feel like if you tell me how many children you think I should have, you are judging me based on how capable you think I am to care for said children.
Now, we are trying our best to be good parents to our children, we are educating ourselves and we strive to make INFORMED choices for our children, and again – JUDGEMENT! We don’t keep the house clean enough, we don’t feed them early enough in the day or we feed them too late in the morning; we don’t feed them the RIGHT things; we shouldn’t have so-and-so sleeping here or there…….the list goes on. I feel like the people closest to me are the ones who are, at times, the heaviest hands of judgement. Apparently, as a mom, I suck! Even though I’ve done more than some parents – I’ve read more books on parenting than some of the people I know who’ve been so quick to judge me; I’ve actually RESEARCHED vaccines, circumcision, feeding choices for infants, discipline methods, chemicals in shampoos/body washes/soaps; the list could go on. I’ve researched more things than I can even recall and have made decisions based on this research, and yet I’m judged because my choices don’t match someone elses?!?! I’ve never presumed to tell someone they are a bad mom for not doing something I disagree with or for doing something I think is questionable – it is up to each parent to raise their child in the way they feel is best and in the way they feel God leading them. I do, admittedly have an opinion on breastmilk vs. artificial baby milk feeding; circumcision vs. au`naturale; vaccines vs. no-vax or delayed vax or selective vax; etc. and I have friends who have made choices that are completely opposite from the one I would have made – but the thing is: I’m still their friend. I still love and respect them because they made the choice that was right for THEIR family at the time that it needed to be made. They did the best they could with the information they had at the time. Isn’t that what life is about???
Psalm 43:5
“Why art thou cast down, O my soul? And why art thou disquieted within me? Hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.”
The Holy Book says, "Judge not, that ye be not judged." (Matt. 7:1) So why do I feel like I'm under scrutiny every day? Sure, its because we're all human, imperfect, and we fall short every day, but that doesn't make judgements any less hurtful.
My husband and I have always wanted 4 children. Always, always. That was our choice. I have people in my life who think that we shouldn’t have made that choice--hat we should only have had 2 or maybe three. Why would it be anyone’s choice but our own?? We are fairly capable adults, we try our best to be productive members of society, so WHY, I ask you, WHY is it ANYone’s business how many children we have? I feel like if you tell me how many children you think I should have, you are judging me based on how capable you think I am to care for said children.
Now, we are trying our best to be good parents to our children, we are educating ourselves and we strive to make INFORMED choices for our children, and again – JUDGEMENT! We don’t keep the house clean enough, we don’t feed them early enough in the day or we feed them too late in the morning; we don’t feed them the RIGHT things; we shouldn’t have so-and-so sleeping here or there…….the list goes on. I feel like the people closest to me are the ones who are, at times, the heaviest hands of judgement. Apparently, as a mom, I suck! Even though I’ve done more than some parents – I’ve read more books on parenting than some of the people I know who’ve been so quick to judge me; I’ve actually RESEARCHED vaccines, circumcision, feeding choices for infants, discipline methods, chemicals in shampoos/body washes/soaps; the list could go on. I’ve researched more things than I can even recall and have made decisions based on this research, and yet I’m judged because my choices don’t match someone elses?!?! I’ve never presumed to tell someone they are a bad mom for not doing something I disagree with or for doing something I think is questionable – it is up to each parent to raise their child in the way they feel is best and in the way they feel God leading them. I do, admittedly have an opinion on breastmilk vs. artificial baby milk feeding; circumcision vs. au`naturale; vaccines vs. no-vax or delayed vax or selective vax; etc. and I have friends who have made choices that are completely opposite from the one I would have made – but the thing is: I’m still their friend. I still love and respect them because they made the choice that was right for THEIR family at the time that it needed to be made. They did the best they could with the information they had at the time. Isn’t that what life is about???
Psalm 43:5
“Why art thou cast down, O my soul? And why art thou disquieted within me? Hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.”
Wow! The time has flown!
Nearly half a year has gone by already since I decided to start writing my own blog -- and I haven't posted a darn thing!! Well, I kinda half expected it would be like that until I really got into the habit of posting. I've been writing things and saving them....just not posting them. So, I'm going to post a few of them....the few that I feel comfortable 'putting out there'.
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