Judgement

I'm kinda tired of judgement.

The Holy Book says, "Judge not, that ye be not judged." (Matt. 7:1) So why do I feel like I'm under scrutiny every day? Sure, its because we're all human, imperfect, and we fall short every day, but that doesn't make judgements any less hurtful.

My husband and I have always wanted 4 children. Always, always. That was our choice. I have people in my life who think that we shouldn’t have made that choice--hat we should only have had 2 or maybe three. Why would it be anyone’s choice but our own?? We are fairly capable adults, we try our best to be productive members of society, so WHY, I ask you, WHY is it ANYone’s business how many children we have? I feel like if you tell me how many children you think I should have, you are judging me based on how capable you think I am to care for said children.

Now, we are trying our best to be good parents to our children, we are educating ourselves and we strive to make INFORMED choices for our children, and again – JUDGEMENT! We don’t keep the house clean enough, we don’t feed them early enough in the day or we feed them too late in the morning; we don’t feed them the RIGHT things; we shouldn’t have so-and-so sleeping here or there…….the list goes on. I feel like the people closest to me are the ones who are, at times, the heaviest hands of judgement. Apparently, as a mom, I suck! Even though I’ve done more than some parents – I’ve read more books on parenting than some of the people I know who’ve been so quick to judge me; I’ve actually RESEARCHED vaccines, circumcision, feeding choices for infants, discipline methods, chemicals in shampoos/body washes/soaps; the list could go on. I’ve researched more things than I can even recall and have made decisions based on this research, and yet I’m judged because my choices don’t match someone elses?!?! I’ve never presumed to tell someone they are a bad mom for not doing something I disagree with or for doing something I think is questionable – it is up to each parent to raise their child in the way they feel is best and in the way they feel God leading them. I do, admittedly have an opinion on breastmilk vs. artificial baby milk feeding; circumcision vs. au`naturale; vaccines vs. no-vax or delayed vax or selective vax; etc. and I have friends who have made choices that are completely opposite from the one I would have made – but the thing is: I’m still their friend. I still love and respect them because they made the choice that was right for THEIR family at the time that it needed to be made. They did the best they could with the information they had at the time. Isn’t that what life is about???


Psalm 43:5
“Why art thou cast down, O my soul? And why art thou disquieted within me? Hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.”